When we were children, we believed that we would be able to live our dream life. We daydreamed about our life as adults. We promised ourselves that one day we would have everything we wanted in life. Flash forward to adulthood. Bills. Health insurance. Arguments. Work. Traffic. Responsibilities. All these things get in the way of our dream life.
As adults, we start to wonder why our lives don’t match up to our dream life we pictured as children. We imagined our life being one way, yet it ended up being totally different than we anticipated it. Instead of finding our perfect dream life, we end up in a place where we feel stuck and there doesn’t seem to be a way out. The problem is that our inner child is still in us, and remembers the dream life we pictured when we were children. Don’t worry if you are feeling stuck there is good news. You have the power to change the direction of your life. You can live your dream life. I am going to help you figure out how.
The two directions you can take when feeling stuck
If you are feeling stuck or lost in life there are really two ways out. The first direction is to stay doing whatever it is you are doing. Most likely you will rationalize your decisions because of your responsibilities in life. You start to tell yourself that you can’t make changes in your life now, but that you will be able to change things later. The thoughts I’ll get to this next year become the norm. Well, sorry to tell you, but if you keep waiting till next year that day will never come. I am not telling you this to make you feel bad about yourself. Trust me, for a long time, I operated in that mode of thinking too. But, if you have a dream in your heart then you will never feel fulfilled or happy by settling for anything less than what you deserve.
The second direction is to make the leap toward your dream life. I don’t mean that you should quit your day job or throw tons of money into a startup right away. But, I do mean that you should start to make little steps every day that will lead you to your dream life. This direction won’t be easy. But, I promise you that if you put in the hard work living your dream life is possible. So, which direction are you going to choose?
Realizing you want to live your dream life: being realistic
If you are reading this, I know that you are curious as to how you can actually live your dream life. Before we move on, there is something I have to mention. I definitely do believe that living your dream life is possible. But, it may not be exactly how you pictured it as a child. If you want to live your dream life, then you need to reframe what this means to you as an adult. By that, I don’t mean that you should settle for something you are not happy with. But, you need to balance reality with your expectations.
If you set your expectations way too high, then you will be left feeling disappointed with what you achieve. In order to create your dream life, you need to set realistic expectations for yourself. For example, writing lyrics and singing are two of my favorite hobbies. When I was younger I used to sing into my tape recorder and thought I was going to be the next Britney Spears. Well, now I’m 28 and it would be silly for me to think I will become a huge pop star. But, it is still a dream of mine to record a couple of tracks with an awesome music producer. I know one day that will happen, but I know I won’t be a famous singer all over the world.
The first steps towards living your dream life
So now we can actually start creating the framework for living your dream life. The first thing you have to do is to spend time figuring out exactly what you want in your life.
What your dream life means to you is really a question of your own desires and wants. Only you know what your dream life really means. Maybe it is to travel. Change jobs. Be in a different relationship. Move cities. Dance. Paint. Cook. The possibilities are totally endless.
This part of your journey will require introspection and self-reflection in order to figure out what you want in your life. During this phase of your journey towards your dream life asking yourself the right questions will help reveal the right path for you and you alone. For some of you, it may be easy to know what your dream life is. But, for others, it may not be so easy. Below I have compiled a list of 10 questions and other tips to help you figure out what your dream life is. These are the things that have always helped me to determine if I am following the right path in life or not. I hope they will help you too!
After you’ve figured out exactly what you want your dream life to be is where all the fun begins. Now you can actually start to work towards your dream life. Ready to begin?
Break the path to your dream life into smaller goals
Once you’ve determined what you want your dream life to be you have to start breaking down your goals little by little. Breaking down your goals means that you have one main end goal in sight which would be your dream life. Then you need to have sub goals that will help you to reach that one main end goal.
Make sure that your goals are clear and you set yourself a timeline for each of them. What I find helpful is putting post it notes somewhere I will read it every day to help keep me on track. It is ok if you get off track from your goal timeline. It happens to me all the time. I just tweak or change my plan when that happens. Life isn’t a straight line, so you have to be prepared for roadblocks to come up every now and then!
I’ve already written about the importance of goal setting in order to reach any goal you set for yourself. If you need help setting your goals read this post I’ve written. If you need help achieving your goals, then you can read this post.
Starting on the path towards your dream life is not going to be easy. It will also require you to have a lot of patience with yourself. Sometimes you will have setbacks and you need to be prepared for them. In fact, you may totally fail at some points as well. But, from that failure, you must be resilient and march on. Pick yourself up and start over again. If you have a dream in your heart, never stop reaching for it!
For example, I am currently trying to reach my dream of writing a book. Last year I sent off my book proposal to a bunch of literary agents and every single one rejected my book proposal. Sure, for a few days I felt discouraged. But, I didn’t and won’t let that setback stop me. Instead I just tweaked my plan, and I am in the next phase of reaching my dream life. I guarantee in the next few years you will see a book on the shelves written by me. I have the desire to reach my dreams and nothing will stop me. I know you have that desire too. So, do not lose hope. Keep pushing towards your dreams. You are going to get there!
The posts I’ve written on setting and achieving goals should help you in this part of your journey towards your dream life. But, I am completely aware that goal setting and achieving may be totally overwhelming for some of you. If you need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to me! I would be more than happy to help you create a timeline and plan to reach your dream life.
Find like-minded people to support your journey towards your dream life
I cannot stress the importance of having positive people around you while you are trying to achieve your dream life. Along your journey, you will find people who don’t believe in you. There will be people telling you that you are not being realistic. Sometimes these people may even be close family or friends. Do not allow those people to bring you down!
It is important to be able to share your journey with others, and that is why it is crucial for you to find people that will support and help you reach your dream life. You need to find the group of people who will boost you up, not bring you down. If you find yourself surrounded by people who don’t really believe in you, then they honestly are not worth your time or energy. I call these people energy vampires. They totally suck the positive energy from me and make me feel really bad about myself! Don’t let the energy vampires do that to you!
I know you might not be able to find people in your area that will support you in your dream life. That is what is so great about the internet. You can easily find people who are trying to achieve their dreams too that will push you further along your path towards your dream life. I often times find them on Facebook groups or forums.
I just want you to know that you have at least one like-minded person here to help you. I want to be your friend and confidant! If you need someone to motivate you or just need someone to talk to, I am here for you 🙂
Don’t let fear stop you from reaching your dream life
One thing that can completely derail your success is letting fear get in your way. On the path to your dream life, you will see a lot of people who are already successful and you might tell yourselves that they just got lucky.
Sometimes you may even tell yourself that there is no way you could ever be like them. But, that just isn’t true. You can be like them if you just allow yourself to actually try to reach your dream life.
I also know that some of you may fear that you are too old to reach your dream life. But, really, it is never too late to try! There is a long list of celebrities who weren’t successful until later in life. Check out this list of celebrities who didn’t give up on their dream life. I hope it inspires you!
You can do it! Don’t give up on your dreams!
If you have a dream deep in your heart, then please don’t ever stop reaching for it. You are meant to be living a life full of happiness, meaning and fulfillment. Never forget that! Even if you make tiny steps towards reaching your dreams, you will feel accomplished and happier with your life. Are you working towards a dream now? Make sure you let me know in the comments 🙂