A few weeks ago I told my friends that I enjoyed staying in on the weekends to color and all of them started laughing at me. The reaction of my friends really got me to start thinking though; why is it that when we turn into adults we forget and let go of so many aspects that we experienced while we were children?
As children we experience our life through doing: coloring, running, playing, singing, dancing, laughing, spinning. The list could go on and on. But the older we get, we start to let some of those aspects go, which is why when an adult says they would rather stay in and color than go out to the bar it seems weird.
I have always been the creative type. I grew up in dance classes, singing lesson, ceramic classes, and jewelry making classes. But, for a long time I let those aspects of me go when I was adult and some part of my soul really started to suffer. In my early 20s I started enrolling in creative classes again, and my life totally changed. My inner child, who had been dormant for so long inside of me, came back to life. It was a transformational period for me.
Maybe you aren’t the creative type like me, but I know you do have an inner child locked inside of you. The one that wants to be carefree. The one that wants to have endless play and see the good in things. The one that is innocent and not jaded by the world. If you don’t let this inner child come out, then you too will be suffering. Maybe in ways that you are not even aware of.
So, I brainstormed some ideas of how you can let your inner child out. Let that beautiful dormant energy that’s been locked inside of you flow out. Embrace your inner child, it’s a huge part of YOU!
7 ways to let your inner child out
1. Love unconditionally to free your inner child
Remember as a child how you just loved so many things about life? That’s the kind of love I am talking about. The true and unconditional love. The ability to express your love towards everyone you meet. The love you feel that is not based on opinions and expectations. Feel this kind of love.
As adults, we start to build up our walls and it gets harder and harder to feel this sense of unconditional love. But, you should try to experience this kind of love again. Try to love the world again through the eyes of your inner child! Love everything you are doing: your job, your friends, your family, your life.
2. Experience life in the moment to let your inner child out
One of my favorite things when I was a little girl was to make mud pies. I didn’t care how messy my hands got, or that I had dirt literally all over my clothes. I was proud of making my beautiful mud pie, adorned with pieces of grass and flowers as toppings. In that moment, I was truly living and experiencing my life. I’m sure you have something similar you used to do as a child.
So why is it as adults most of us stop this kind of experiencing? Or I guess we could even call it experimenting. Listen, I’m not telling you to run outside and start rolling around in the dirt. But, what I am saying is that the art of truly living, experiencing and being in the present moment is something that we have to do as adults.
Just do something for the sake of doing it. In my opinion, the best thing to do here is something that unleashes your inner creative self. You can do whatever it is to truly experience your life today: draw on a paper, take an art class, start a new activity for fitness, take a cooking class. Seriously, the options are limitless! It’s all about just being in the moment and truly experiencing life, and finding the joy in the little things.
3. Color outside the lines
In second grade my teacher gave me a worksheet to color. There were black outlines on the picture, so I decided to save time to take my crayon and color across the entire page to fill the picture with one color. Meaning that I colored completely outside the black boundary lines.
My teacher came over to me and said, “Anna, we’re in 2nd grade now. We can color inside the lines.”
A huge part of me felt embarrassed by what I did. But, that statement she said stuck with me the rest of my life. I’ve always been one to color outside the lines. That is where all our creativity lies! Let yourself jump out of your boundaries! Be bold. You will see amazing things will happen!
4. Get that energy out to release your inner child
Sometimes when I am walking to work I see all the little Kindergarteners during their play time. They are jumping, spinning in circles, dancing, and having fun! So, why do we stop that as we turn into adults? Yes, sure, our energy levels aren’t nearly as high now but we still have that deep energy within us to just be silly. As adults many of us get that energy out by exercising. That is totally fine. But, something you can try and do is relive those experiences of being a little kid. I know, it seems a bit weird but if you try it once and really let yourself experience those feelings you will feel a sense of deep happiness within yourself come out. That’s your inner child saying hello.
This is going to be whatever you feel the need for. I grew up dancing so I put on my music and totally jam out. I may be acting a fool to the whole world, but I could care less because of that amazing feeling I have within myself. You can do whatever it is that gets your inner child energy out. Roll down a hill, jump all around, play tag with your friends. If you find yourself telling yourself that you can’t do these things, then just be mindful that is your ego talking. You totally can and you should!
5. Don’t forget to sing
I know a lot of you are already thinking yeah, but I can’t sing. Oh, yes you definitely can! A very small percentage of people are actual tone deaf.
Most of us like singing; it’s something that is just innate within us and goes back to our tribal days. When we’re little kids, singing is a natural part of life. Maybe it was your ABCs or a little song you learned at school. But as you got older someone probably told you that you weren’t a good singer. Or maybe you just felt too shy to sing in front of other people. I definitely experienced the latter. I think so many of us feel embarrassed to sing in a setting where we feel judged. But if you crack out the liquid courage at a bar and a karaoke night everyone is singing and no one is looks embarrassed at all, right? It’s actually a super fun experience!
Singing is so beneficial to our health and is also an awesome way to let your inner child out. In this article by Tania de Jong, she says that, “Neuroscience proves that group singing makes us happier, healthier, smarter and more creative.”
So, sing! Sing at karaoke with your friends, sing in the shower, or sing in the car when no one else can hear you. It doesn’t matter where or when— just do it. On days I’m having a terrible time, singing is the only thing that makes me feel better. Try it sometime. There is something that hits us in our heart center when we let ourselves sing.
6. Show your beautiful smile
Ok, if you aren’t going to try any of my other tips then you can definitely try this one. Remember when you were little and you smiled at strangers? Well do this again! Smiling is a simple way you can easily connect back to the world around you and let your inner child out. Too often in this world we become guarded and defensive. Don’t lost that part of you! Let it shine!!
7. Just be yourself!
At the end of the day, the best way to let your inner child flow out of you is by being yourself. Yes, as adults we have a lot of responsibilities and obligations. But, that doesn’t mean you have to let your inner child die completely. Don’t be scared to be who you truly are! My mom said a few weeks ago, “be you, the world needs you,” and I think this is totally true! Don’t keep your true self locked hidden away inside where you can’t find it. Express it and own who you really are!
Ready to let your inner child out?
I provided you with some tips, but you can do anything you wish in order to let that inner child come out and play! I know these tips won’t make you debt disappear or make your job any easier, but they will provide you with the freedom to release a part of yourself that we often lose as adults. Don’t lose your inner child! So, what do you do to let your inner child out? Let me know in the comments!