Last night Christoph and I were watching a documentary called A Different Brain, presented by Louis Theroux. The documentary was about people suffering from long-term brain injuries, mostly due to different kinds of accidents.
One story that particularly spoke to me was about Amanda and Rob, a married couple. Two years before the documentary, Amanda had fallen off a horse and suffered a severe brain injury. After two years of rehab, Amanda was able to return home—well, at least to a new home that they had to buy which was equipped with a room for her nurse as well. Amanda was now living in a separate annex to the house, and one of her stipulations to moving home was that there would be a lock on the door so she could be alone whenever she wanted.
The documentary was heartbreaking to watch. The couple had two children, who were born prior to Amanda’s accident. Her relationship with her children and Rob had drastically been altered after her accident. The couple no longer had the relationship they once had. No kissing. No sleeping in the same bed. No cuddling. But, Rob was attentive, loving and super patient. Still Amanda blankly said, “the person he married died the day I fell off that horse. I am what’s left and I don’t think I’m enough.”
Amanda was insistent that her personality had not changed after the accident. But, Rob was also insistent that it did change—noting that Amanda’s emotions were much more monotone and flat now. He also mentioned that she was much more of a short fuse and got annoyed much easier than she did before.
Several times on camera she would start attacking Rob, and acting very rudely towards him. The expression on his face would contort into the look of a poor, helpless child. I felt so sorry for him; he was trying to do everything in his power to help his injured wife, and most of the time she just lashed out on him. The thing is, Rob never got upset with Amanda when she acted like that towards him. Rob was aware that her new personality was due to her accident, and he was not going to give up on her. He was doing everything he could to keep Amanda happy, safe and comfortable in her new life. Rob showed the eternal truth that love is unconditional, patient and always forgiving.
So why am I telling you about a documentary I watched?
About halfway through watching this tear jerking documentary I asked Christoph what he would do if we were in Rob and Amanda’s position. He said that he would do the same exact thing, and that we were a team that would get through everything together. I told him that I felt the same way too.
Something we must admit to ourselves is that life is not always pretty. We will never have things wrapped up in the perfect package. In a matter of moments, our lives can be altered forever—sometimes for the worse, like in Rob and Amanda’s case. But, in those dark moments, love always shines through.
There is a person out there for you that will never give up on you. They will be your Rob or my Christoph. If you are lucky enough to have already found them, then be sure to thank them today. Hug them and tell them how happy you are they are in your life. Be grateful for what you have.
If you haven’t found that person yet, then do not give up searching. Keep looking for that person who will always be there to support and love you. Find that person who will weather the storm with you, and be on your side no matter how difficult or painful life is.
Remember, love is the blanket that shelters us from the tough, scary reality of the world. Do not give up until you find that person who will wrap you tightly in their blanket of love, and will never even think of giving up on you—even in the very bleakest of moments.