When we set out on a path towards reaching our goals we are so determined to succeed. Unfortunately, there are times when that just cannot happen. It’s totally normal to sometimes fail—and this is nothing you should feel bad about! The word failure has such a negative connotation in our society, but I really would argue that it is an essential component of reaching true success. Here’s why:
Learning from your mistakes
Our mistakes teach us so much! Yes, it is not easy to stare at them in the face and admit that we made them, but it is something we have to do if we want to truly succeed in our life. If we try to avoid our mistakes, we will feel disappointed. However, the willingness to accept and grow from our mistakes will bring great change in our lives.
Accepting your mistakes is not an easy task. You might blame yourself or someone else for failing. But, ultimately, you need to fess up to the mistakes you made and learn from them. Whenever I fail at something I take time to cool off first. This might take a day, or weeks depending on what I was trying to achieve. After that, I always journal out my feelings—including all the mistakes I felt I made. You need to find a way to do this too. It will help you take charge of your life and make the necessary changes so you can be one step closer to succeeding.
For example, let’s say you were interviewing for your dream job and you completely bombed the interview. This doesn’t mean you are not suited for a job like that. It probably just means you weren’t prepared and not able to handle the questions in an appropriate manner. I’ve definitely been there before. So what can you do in this situation? You can learn from your errors! Figuring out where you went wrong in this situation would help you to handle an interview like that in the future. So, whenever you fail make sure you take the time to learn from what you did wrong—it will definitely help you!
Have you realized how many amazing skills you learned along the way?
Just because you didn’t succeed in your long term goals doesn’t mean that you didn’t succeed in small ways trying to get there. The best example I can give you is something that happened to me a couple of years ago. I was super gung ho about writing a book about my travels and experience of following my dreams. For an entire year, I wrote a comprehensive book proposal. I poured my heart and soul into this book proposal, hoping that I would end up getting my book published. After that one year of work, I sent off my proposal to all the literary agents I thought would be interested. In the weeks to come I received one rejection email after another.
Although I received so many rejection letters, I still didn’t feel like a total failure. The reason was because I knew I learned invaluable skills along the way. I improved my writing, learned the process of how to get a book published and so many other things!
It’s so important for you to recognize this as well the next time you fail. Try not to focus so much about the actual failure, but start to reframe your thinking to recognize how much you learned along the way. All of those various skills will eventually help you reach your success!
Failure make you stronger
Failing does not mean you are weak. I actually think it makes you a much stronger person! When we fail we must find a way to pick ourselves up and get back on track. When we do this each time we fail we become resilient to endure just about anything!
It takes courage to fail, because it means you took a leap towards reaching a goal of yours. That means that you are willing to take risks and try your best to work towards your dreams!
Keep on going, don’t give up!
In closing, I just wanted to give you a friendly reminder to not give up! You will eventually reach success if you just keep trying. Each time you fall down, find a way to pick yourself back up again. You can do this; you can live your dream life! Embrace your failure, and keep looking for the next road that will lead you to your inevitable success!