Each of us has a life purpose—this is something you cannot forget. For some people, figuring out their life purpose is easy. From a young age they are determined to reach their destiny. They have their eye set on a goal, and nothing will stop them from reaching it. On the other hand, there are plenty of people who meander through life trying to figure out what their life purpose is.
I definitely fell into the latter category of people. So I decided to write this post in order to help anyone still searching for their life purpose. I just want you to know that if you are still searching for it then you should not worry. It is normal for some people to need longer to develop themselves than others. Now, let me share my story of finding my life purpose. I do hope that it will help some of you reading this to find the inspiration you need!
As a child, I never wondered what my life purpose was
I was always interested in a million different things when I was younger. I grew up taking all sorts of different classes: violin, dance, ceramics and singing. I was the creative type; I used to spend my free time teaching myself how to do crafty things from making hats to learning how to apply makeup.
During my youth, I never questioned what my life purpose was. I was more focused on actively doing things than focused on where they would lead me.
My aha moment with psychology and the vague beginnings to my life purpose
My senior year in high school I enrolled in a psychology course. After just a short time of being in that class I knew I wanted to major in the subject at college. I had this thought that I could study psychology and help the world. This was the beginning of a very vague idea of my life purpose at the age of 17.
I loved studying psychology. I was so intrigued by the study of the mind, emotions and human behavior. I took all sorts of classes ranging from drugs and behavior to the psychology of religion. But, if I wanted to find my life purpose in that field, I was going to need to narrow down my interests within the realm of psychology.
From the years of 2008 to 2010 I did two neuroscience research internships, only to realize that area of psychology was not for me. I thought about doing a MA in counseling, but felt I needed much more life experience to be a counselor. My professors urged me to consider PhD programs, but I had no clue what area I wanted to specialize in. As my graduation in 2010 approached I didn’t have any clear direction—and I certainly did not feel ready to commit myself to a life I didn’t feel ready for.
Leaving the conventional behind and furthering the path to my life purpose
When I graduated college I didn’t get a 9-5. I didn’t go into a PhD or master’s program. I jumped at the opportunity to live abroad in Germany. I realize now, I was not prepared for such an adventure, but that leap into the unknown is what lead me to where I am now.
From 2010 to 2011, I taught English to kindergarten children. But, to be honest, I was definitely not suited for a career doing something like that. My time in Germany also did not turn out how I planned and in the middle of 2011 I went back to the USA to sort my life out.
When I returned to the USA I was back again at the question of trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. People urged me to join LinkedIn and apply to other 9-5 jobs. But, like my mother, that path was never going to be for me.
I took some time to let my creative energy out. I started working at my favorite makeup store. As a hobby, I became a singer in a band, hoping it would lead to new doors opening. The band definitely didn’t work out, but I was happy to be singing again. I also found it very therapeutic to write lyrics. After my brief stint with the band I still wanted to connect with musicians. I made friends with several electronic music producers online, and sent them a sample of me singing.
Several of them asked me to send them samples of me singing with lyrics I had written. As I went through my lyrics I noticed there was an overall theme: everything I wrote was about inspiring others to live a life of their dreams. The lyrics were about being positive, and feeling confident and happy. One of my favorite lyrics I wrote then was, “In each of us is a lotus flower waiting to bloom. So, in this lifetime dispel false truths and blossom into you.”
Although I never actually recorded those lyrics, they stuck with me, and they definitely helped push me further down the path to find my purpose.
Leaping abroad and traveling the world
By 2012, I really started to feel stuck. I was 24 and waiting for a lightbulb to flash on that would help me determine what I wanted to do with my entire life.
In this phase in my life, I had a deep desire to travel the world. In July of 2012 I was hired to work as an international flight attendant for Emirates airlines. I was based out of Dubai and traveled all over the world. Right before leaving for Emirates a friend of mine, Debbie, from Germany came to visit the USA. On the trip with her was her friend Christoph, who is now my current boyfriend. Never in a million years did I think I’d meet my dream guy before heading off to live in a foreign country—but nothing can stop love! Christoph and I did a long distance relationship during my entire time at Emirates.
While I was working for Emirates I traveled to the far corners of the world. I had friends from so many different countries. I worked with people from 140 nationalities. It was during this time I started realizing that I was happiest working directly with people from all over the world. I became super interested in cross-cultural communication. This time helped me develop myself in regards to relating to other people, especially from different cultures.
Back to Germany and solidifying my life purpose
In 2014 I left Emirates and moved back to Germany to be with Christoph. We both wanted to find a way to end our international long distance relationship, and this was the best option. I got a job working as an English teacher. As mentioned above, I had taught children before but now I was going to be teaching adults. Little did I know that the combination of things to come was going to help me put all the pieces of my life together to help me determine my life purpose.
Working as an English teacher for adults was definitely challenging. I taught all levels from total beginners to advanced students learning about engineering. It was a fun, but tough job.
The majority of my students were unemployed Germans. After about a year of teaching I started to see that I wasn’t the best at teaching my students the difference between the present perfect or the present perfect progressive. But, what I was really good at was motivating them and making them feel confident about their job search. While doing job search training I was great at inspiring them to live their dream life. I was there as an empathetic listener and give them the boost they needed in their life.
During these times, I got totally lost in a state of flow, where I would forget about time. I felt elated to be in the room sharing my positivity with others. It became clear to me that this was my life purpose. I realized I was really good at helping others grow and develop in order to take the steps towards living their dream life. I was there to be someone’s cheerleader when they felt they couldn’t do something.
I now know that my life purpose is to be a vessel of positive energy and be a helper, friend and problem solver all at the same time. My vague goal of helping others at 17, was the same one I have now and it is still to help others. But, I now know I want to help others grow and transform into the best versions of themselves. To help them develop spiritually, mentally, emotionally and interpersonally.
I would say my life purpose is a culmination of what this blog is all about. I see now that everything in my life has lead me to this point from my study of psychology to the writing of my lyrics. Deep in my heart I know exactly what I am on this Earth for and now I have my eye set on goals and there is nothing that will stop me from reaching them.
Where will my life purpose bring me?
As in anything with life, I can’t be totally sure what the future will bring for me. But, I definitely am in the process of creating the life of my dreams, and of course, I am in the process of fulfilling my purpose. I am now making changes in my lifestyle so that almost everything I do will support my life purpose.
I already made the first step by deciding to move back to the USA so I can build up a network of positive, like-minded people that will further me on my path. If you read my post about how to create your dream life you will remember the importance of having like-minded people when working towards your dreams.
As for the next years, I have many new high hopes and I am positive I will reach some of them! I am currently in the process of building this blog up to reach more people and help them become the best version of themselves. I want to thank you, dear friend, for reading this today! Another goal of mine is to write a book. Finally, I would like to engage in more public speaking events and smaller private classes as well. I am now very comfortable standing in front of a room and teaching people about a topic (thanks to all my practice from being an English teacher), and I would like to do that more with topics related to personal growth, taking risks in life and of course finding balance and happiness in life.
Sometimes it takes time to figure out your life purpose
The reason I wrote this post is because the other day I stumbled upon a girl on YouTube who is just 15 and left a comment on a video saying she had no idea what her life purpose was. She felt stuck and frustrated. I felt myself in that girl and told her to be patient with herself, and that she would find her path one day.
I wanted to share my story with you so you could see that it takes some people longer than others to find their life purpose. But, the thing is, if you really want to know what your life purpose is then I have to tell you the truth: your life purpose is in you all along. There is no secret to finding it—but only you can figure out what it is. At 17, I basically knew what my purpose was, except I was sort of scatterbrained and I needed time to really bring everything together. I needed time to grow, travel and experience life.
Please remember that there is no right or wrong time to find your life purpose. Don’t rush finding it. When the time is right, you will find the right path for you. Whether from an early age you knew what you wanted to do, or still struggling to figure out what yours is, it is all ok. Just listen to your heart and look for the signs from the universe. If one door isn’t opening for you, try another one. Keep pressing on until you know deep in your heart that you are in the right place. You will get there; you cannot give up! Never forget that we all have a reason to be here. We all have a life purpose. Namaste my beautiful friend!
P.S. If you are struggling to find your life purpose, you can check out the other post I wrote about how to create your dream life. I included a 10 question video which should help you figure out what your life purpose is.